Do different vaginas actually feel that different? Does my vagina have a particular sensation completely unique to someone else’s? Could someone be capable of feeling the difference with their penis alone?
Or are all vaginas generally the same cosy, cushioned, tunnels, indistinct from one another? It’s something we’ve pondered. And apparently we’re not alone in this eternal questioning, as someone’s started a thread all about it on Reddit, titled: ‘Do different vaginas feel different to guys during penetrative sex?’ We took it upon ourselves to ask some people with penises for answers. Their names have been changed, because shockingly few people want to publicly compare people’s vaginas. Fair enough. First off, what does sex feel like when you have a penis? The general consensus is a warm, wet, cosy grip of the penis. That’s what we’re working with. Adam, 26, tells Metro.co.uk that yes, there are noticeable differences between different vaginas purely in terms of penetrative sensation. ‘Some feel harder, some wetter, some deeper, some tighter, squishier, funner,’ he explains. ‘Some just feel better… comfier and easier to work with.’ Tom, also 26, agrees. ‘Naturally there are differences – tightness, wetness – although I suppose the second isn’t necessarily a physical difference in vaginas,’ he muses.
Wetness makes sense as a noticeable difference. People’s vaginas will vary in terms of wetness depending on their arousal level as well as their vagina’s natural lubrication levels, and the wetter someone is, the easier penetration will be – that’s something that’s noticeable based purely on penile sensation. But within someone’s personal wetness, there are different levels of lubrication. One day they may feel wetter than another, so it’s not a particularly distinguishable trait. The same goes for warmth, which Brian, 33, says he notices as a variable. Vaginas change in temperature, and the penis can feel that, but one person’s temperature on one day doesn’t make their vagina unique to another’s. ‘Some are warmer than others,’ says David, 33. ‘Some get cold when they cum.’ It’s worth noting that some differences will only be noticed through digital (with your fingers) penetration, but not through the penis. ‘Bumpiness is not something you notice with your penis,’ Brian tells us. ‘But you do with fingers.’
Our fingers are sensitive and we use them to feel things out and pick up information. We aren’t trained to do the same kind of textural learning with the penis (in evolutionary terms, we just want to penetrate to the best of our ability to reproduce), so it makes sense that someone may not feel the intricacies of a vagina’s curves and bumps with their penis alone. So while vaginas may each be different in terms of texture and curves, it’s likely that those differences wouldn’t be picked up by penetration with the penis.